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The Guide Podcast
The Guide to Unlocking Success for the New School Year
Ready to conquer the back-to-school season like a pro? Per usual, Ellie and Paige got you! This episode is packed with simple strategies to help you stay organized, productive, and motivated.
They discuss using resources like Rate My Professor and the benefits of walking your class schedule beforehand. Plus, learn the art of spending time alone to enhance focus and confidence, and the importance of being an initiator in social settings. This episode gives timeless advice and personal stories designed to uplift and energize you for a successful academic journey and school year!
Hey everyone and welcome back to the that Girl Guide. This is your co-host.
Speaker 2:Paige, and this is Ellie.
Speaker 1:And we're so excited because today, in honor of back-to-school season, we're doing a back-to-school episode we're gonna go over how to stay organized, how to be productive, how to stay motivated because that can be really hard how to be social, how to be the best dressed. Everything you need to go need to know to go back to school. That was a tongue twister.
Speaker 2:Love it, and you all also sent in some like questions and just advice that you were needing at this time of year, and so also go through some of the questions that you all sent in and it's perfect, because I haven't gone back to school in five years, so it's been a lot of reflection. Paige was a pro student. Thank you, she did a great job.
Speaker 2:Thank you. So I'm grateful for the advice that she'll give all of you and to me, because I will start back in college in the next like two weeks, so that's so exciting. But I think we all kind of get those nerves when back to school season comes into, some of those jitters about how, yeah, we're going to be the most productive and time management and how we're going to do the best we can, and so hopefully this is helpful to all of you who are also feeling like me.
Speaker 1:Yeah, just listen, hopefully. Listen to this, calm your nerves, listen to it a couple of times, send it to a friend. The first like topic we kind of want to talk about is just like how to stay organized and stay productive, especially like when you're in school and there's like you have a really rigorous schedule but you also don't at the same time. It's a lot of like self. I don't know you have to organize and plan. Yeah, it's on your own.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's like your own schedule if they, especially in college, where they're just like okay, this is the, final is yeah.
Speaker 1:Final is yeah. Or yeah, you're like, wait, come back, or they're like, yeah, you don't even have to come to class. And you're like oh, I don't need to go to class, yeah.
Speaker 2:Exactly, it would almost be easier if they just I don't know week by week. If it was planned for me, it would be so much easier actually.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but it's good because it teaches us lessons for life where it's really honest to truth. Ain't that the best we can? Okay, the first thing that I wrote down was and kind of boring, basic, but is to use chat gbt to your advantage. I honestly, this is like I need to tell myself this even just in life, because chat gbt, truly or gemini or whatever all the different apps are you can use that for so many different things, like you can literally be like I have a tomato, feta, I don't know cinnamon in my cupboard and that's all like what's the recipe I can make with it, and it will like give you a recipe or anyways, whatever. It is like school assignments.
Speaker 2:Just use the, use that to your advantage and work smarter, not harder and I think I I was kind of against in a way, because I just didn't want it to be too easy and I wanted to show that I am still smart, whatever. But honestly, it came around just recently, um, when I realized that when I would ask something, it then actually was making me smarter.
Speaker 2:And it was just knowledge, it was just, you know, in the olden days like my parents had to like go to libraries and find books and like get the information and then it was in their mind but we can just get that information so fast and then you can study to retain that information. Yeah, but AI just makes it so easy to get information to use for whatever you're doing in school and I will say, like on that same note, like, yes, work smarter, not harder.
Speaker 1:But I almost tried to work too smart and less hard because I would take advantage of things like chat, gpt well, that didn't exist when I was in school, but things like that but so much so that I didn't like to your point like really learn it or like enjoy that I was like able to learn in school, so things like that. But so much so that I didn't like to your point like really learn it or like enjoy that I was like able to learn in school. So I would just say, as a reminder, like going to school is amazing and it's such a privilege to go to school yeah, like I remember and just like learn from someone every time.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like when.
Speaker 2:I started college, paige was like, oh, I like sent some cool statistic that I learned one of my classes in college, like my first month there, and Paige was like, oh, I missed that, yeah, and it really just made me realize, yeah, it's so cool that I just get to learn so much. Yeah, it's amazing and I think loving learning is like the best thing you can do, and the way to become successful is to love learning to stay creative.
Speaker 1:Learning and intellectually curious, yeah, and I feel like coming out of school too, I appreciate it more and I think it's so much harder for me to learn now and that's why I wish I would have taken more advantage of it, because I was really focused on like my grades and working smarter, not harder, that I took it like a little too far sometimes that I wasn't like oh, this is an amazing statistic I just learned, or skill I just learned. So just a reminder that this is like if you are overwhelmed with school or stress like how amazing it is that you get to go to school.
Speaker 1:And I was just hanging for that.
Speaker 2:And I also think like really that's what you should learn, especially in college, but also even in high school, is to just learn to love learning because that's what will set you up for the rest of your life. If you learn that skill to enjoy learning and to seek like opportunities to learn then you'll be way set up way better for the rest of your life.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I feel like that's something I've taken into my career. Is that like I'm continuously learning, and specifically in marketing, which is like an ever-changing field? Is that like that's how you stay on top of brand marketing is by always like learning and growing okay tangent over? The other thing we wrote down is to find a friend in each of your classes so that you can text like if an assignment change or if there's like a big test coming up, or if you want to study with them, like even if they're like a weird friend that you're not going to be best friends with for life, that's okay, but just find someone in there that you can like chat with about stuff.
Speaker 2:It makes the biggest difference and I have had so many classes where I didn't know anyone and I was like, oh no it's gonna be so much harder, but just like befriend them literally, just start talking to them honestly. Those are some of my favorite people the way that I have in like my random classes.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I still remember, um, my senior year of high school. I like became friends with this girl super randomly and she became one of like I like she wasn't someone I hung out with on the weekend, but like one of my really good friends that we like stayed in contact like through college and stuff. So, yeah, anyways, but even if you guys don't become besties, that's okay too. It's just like nice to have someone to like ask yeah, and they probably want a friend too true, everyone wants a win-win for both of you.
Speaker 2:So don't be scared to like talk to people in your class and make friends with them yeah, next up we have.
Speaker 1:At least I wrote this down. I don't know if you're the same way as me, but to color coordinate, like your spirals or your binders. I don't know if that helps other people, but for me, um, math was always green. I'm not sure it just gives green energy. Um, language arts was always purple. There were always so many tiktoks on these.
Speaker 2:Oh, there is oh yeah, I feel like yours is kind of not the norm, though. Oh really, yeah, there's so many tiktoks. I think the average is like yellow is history. Oh, mine was orange for history I guess that could kind of work, but usually yellow is more science was more like my yellow science was green, math was blue.
Speaker 1:Oh, that makes sense that makes or no? Math was red, oh, math was red, math isn't yeah, I don't know, I used red anyway, you have such different brains, I guess, whatever the color is, just color coordinate them, because I think that helps you stay organized Well, just like get cute stuff, get cute pens.
Speaker 2:It just makes you want to like, study and write things down. I was just in Europe and there were so many of the cutest stores. They're like Copenhagen but based in Copenhagen. It's called Flying Tiger and I didn't buy anything because I didn't want to lug it around on my trip, but I'm going to try and order stuff from it online because it's so cute, so you should go look them up for the cutest school essentials With your clothes and also your school supplies. Yeah, Okay, the next one is to use Rate my Professor.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:I don't know how we would live without that Like truly.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, I think.
Speaker 2:Yeah. If you're in college, definitely look at that, even in high school, like when you randomly have like a college professor.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I would look at my professor and it just and it's great, cause sometimes they're like oh, it's really reading heavy. You like reading and are good at reading, then great, take that class. But if you're not, then don't take that class. Um, or they are very visual and if you're a visual person, then, anyways, use that Um. The next thing we put in, which I feel very passionately about and really helped me specifically in both high school and college, honestly is to walk your classes beforehand so that you're not stressed the day of like if you know where they are, so you can like still talk to your friends that you're not stressed the day of like, if you know where they are, so you can like still talk to your friends and you're not like late because like that is like the most stressful part
Speaker 2:yeah, it always makes me anxious, yeah, so yeah, I remember I did that when I got to college and I went I just walked around trying to find everything, yeah, and that helped a ton because it's so overwhelming and, yeah, scary the first day school. So that's at least one thing you can try and control is to go look at your classes. The last one, or sorry, second to last one, is to take advantage of teachers office hours. They usually can give extra credit points or just like I don't know, kind of befriending your teachers makes such a difference because they want to help you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they do. Most teachers really do care about you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because they want to help you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they do. Most teachers really do care about you. Yeah, I feel very passionately about the Office Hours stuff Because, like, even if they don't give you extra points or whatever, they at least like help teach you content that you didn't know otherwise.
Speaker 2:And they know that, then you're a hard worker and that you care.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and then you're invested, yeah, lastly, we just put to make a to-do list. Lastly, we just put to make a to-do list. Sounds basic.
Speaker 2:That's within but you really like it just makes all the difference. Yeah, we need to-do list.
Speaker 1:And you feel better when you check something off your list.
Speaker 2:You know it makes you want to like hurry and do another thing so you can check another thing off your list. It's a little game, it's a little game. It's good psychology.
Speaker 1:Okay, the next section is is like how to stay motivated. I feel like this is a huge thing. I also am the fastest talker ever, sorry, um. I feel like motivation is a huge thing because people are like, oh, I don't have motivation, or like that person's motivated but, motivation, like anybody can have motivation, and I actually just started.
Speaker 2:Choice to be motivated.
Speaker 1:And I just started reading this book actually called smarter, faster, better or something, and it's actually I know it's actually really interesting.
Speaker 1:I literally just started it, but one of the first things that it started talking about was motivation, and I said that motivation is triggered by making choices that demonstrate to ourselves that we are in control. So the actual choice we make is less important than the assertion we are, that that we are in control. Control so basically like if you're just in control of what you're doing, then you're more motivated to do stuff. So like if you have to write a paper, it's, it doesn't matter, like where you start, just if you want to start with a conclusion like that's fine, you just have if you're in control of what you're doing. Does that make sense?
Speaker 1:no, I'm trying to dissect this like I know it was kind of confusing for me to understand, but then it made more sense to me. So like in my career, when I had a lot of autonomy to just like build stuff, do stuff myself, I was a lot more motivated because I was steering it and I was doing it myself. Where, like when I was micromanaged, I was less motivated. So like when it comes to schoolwork and stuff like you just have to take control of whatever you're doing and you feel more motivated. Is that better explained?
Speaker 2:A little bit. I mean, I just think, really, when you feel like your life is a mess and you feel overwhelmed and you have a million things to do, it's hard to just know where to start. Yeah, and so then you're just like I don't even want to start because I don't know where to start. But if you just choose to start, then the motivation will follow.
Speaker 2:Yeah, preach and way to describe it the example of like it's always like, just like the putting on your tennis shoes to go work out or going to run is the hardest part but like true.
Speaker 1:Once you like, I said that in my workout class yesterday like you already did, the hardest part which was coming here.
Speaker 2:No, it really is like. And so I think there's so many things that we can do to make school easier, where if you just like put your tennis shoes right by your bed in the morning, then it's like they're right there, it's easier to put them on, so it's easier to go to the gym, or whatever. Yeah, and I think there's little things that you could find to do to make just some better habits to then lead to you being a better student and be more productive. Yeah, and I think one of those things is to just like set your phone down and leave and go to a different room.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and cause it's just so easy for me to just pick up my phone, check on it it makes such a difference, even not just school, but I'm just like I really just have to like fold my laundry. And so just this morning I just like, okay, I'm leaving my phone down here by the washing machine, I'm gonna go put all this laundry away before I can go back and get my phone. Nice, and it just honestly made me happy to actually be away from my phone, because sometimes I even could just get too glued to it. Yeah, and it was nice to put away my laundry in silence, without my phone.
Speaker 1:I'd love that for you um, the next thing we put on just like staying motivated and kind of to what you said about habits is just like create routines and habits, like good routines and habits and stick to them. We did, or I did, a guide to habits episode. There's so many like books on habit stacking um, on creating good habits. So like definitely recommend, like reading those two. It's like you want to set like good habits, like atomic habits, or this book that I'm reading yeah, I loved atomic habits yeah, better, smarter, faster or something like that.
Speaker 1:Um building blocks of habits is something.
Speaker 2:Another book anyways, you can literally just google habits if you, and I think, also give yourself credit for the habits that you already have.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I don't think we realize how many good habits that we have, true? So good job, good job, good job, you and I think. And back to how one of the habits we were saying, and just like leaving your phone in a different room, um, kind of going along with that is just creating a more comfortable study place, like like, like I love to light a candle and like that, like maybe you're the one who got that on me.
Speaker 1:Really Shoot that like triggered me studying and then, when I was done studying, I'd like blow it out Like I don't know Like, get like your favorite drinker Because it's just creating such a peaceful, serenity place.
Speaker 2:Serenity, a comfy chair, light, yeah, yeah, I just love it that that made a huge difference.
Speaker 1:This was when I went into my career but I was like working at a dumb, like little desk, but then I bought like a nice desk and I bought some like cute Amazon books, like the Chanel, you know, like design books, and it just made like working so much more fun.
Speaker 2:We're not saying go spend money. But it is easier to work when you have, or just like a cute. You don't have to spend money because you can go to like a cute coffee shop, or. But it is easier to work when you have cute clothes or just go to a cute.
Speaker 1:You don't have to spend money Because you can go to like a cute coffee shop or a smoothie shop or wherever. That just has good vibes, you know, yeah, okay, last little section we're going to talk about is social.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think that was like the hardest part with school for me was just the social aspect of it, which is so funny because I think, yeah, people think I'm such a like social person and I am, but I just she really, I really am but like in high school, I just think I don't know, I had the social anxiety or whatever it was and I just like did not want to deal with the social aspect of school and that's like a lot of the questions that you all kind of set in had to do with that as well.
Speaker 1:Yeah, which it really can be hard, but it Ellie was saying that she just saw TikTok about it being cool to like be alone and it really is like.
Speaker 2:And I talked about that, I think briefly, in the last episode too, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:I'm just saying like I feel like I used to always make a friend go with me, which I feel like that's something I still have to work on, but I've actually gotten better like I've gone, especially now that I'm. I mean this I'm out of school, but when I've gone, she's like 27, she's like I can finally go places alone.
Speaker 1:I know, I know it took me a long time, guys, but now, like when I moved to a new city, like to making friends, I was like got invited to stuff, but I was like, oh, I don't have a friend to go with. But I literally just had to force myself to go. And now I'm so grateful that I, like made the friends that I made, but like I wouldn't have had a friend to go with.
Speaker 2:So just got to go alone. And like I'm in college. I love sitting in the library by myself.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like I don't know I I feel so confident actually being by myself it's like I'm productive, like I'm not just here to like chit chat, like I'm doing stuff and I don't feel bad about it. But then sometimes I'm like, oh, there's a friend, like of course I want to go sit with them, yeah, but I just think being comfortable, being alone as well, like it does not mean you're not awesome and cool like Like you are awesome and cool and you're just too cool for everyone else.
Speaker 1:Um, but on that same note, like if you do want to do something with a friend, or you do want to like go to a workout class, or you do want to go to a party, or you do want to plan, like a pumpkin cookie night, I don't know Do you can invite them, like you don't need to.
Speaker 2:I don't know, it sounds like a dream.
Speaker 1:I love it. I don't need to. I don't know. It sounds like a dream I love it.
Speaker 2:I don't know I'm thinking like I can't wait for fall. Yeah, I love pumpkin cookies.
Speaker 1:Okay, but you can just like plan it, like you don't need to wait for someone else to plan something or get it done yeah, that's something we put is just don't wait to be invited, be the inviter be the initiator. I love initiators like if someone puts me in a great message and be like on this day, at this time, we're going to this movie. I'll be like, okay, great, I'm there you know, love it, love it love them.
Speaker 1:The world needs those people, so be one of them, yeah um, I think the other thing we put is just to like enjoy where you are and what you're doing and learning. Um, we kind of said that earlier, but just like just be where you are.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and it's really it's really a privilege to be where you are right now.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and you're going to miss it one day. Like honestly, I keep just saying preach and truth to everything you say, but you're preaching the truth, thank you.
Speaker 2:Because really I didn't love high school. I just was like always looking forward to it ending and then all of a sudden it ends and you're like, and it's so sad and you're like that's so terrible that I just like wished away all of this time yeah and now I would like, in some ways we should go back. Actually I want to go back to high school, but I was sad. I was like oh, that went by too fast. I know, I was so sad.
Speaker 1:When I graduated from high school and college, I was like devastated um, because it's just like such a fun time, um. And then another thing that I think is really important when it comes to social and friendships. We did a guide to friendship episode, which 12 out of 10 recommend listening to. That was like one of my favorite episodes that we did. Um, and I wish I would have talked about this on the episode, because I feel very passionate about it is that how you talk about other people is more of a reflection of you than it is the person you're talking about.
Speaker 2:And then this is like what I don't. I think it was. My mom taught me this and I just was like mind blown and she said you know, if you're talking about Susie to your friend Sally, sally, then Sally might be like oh, but she's friends with Susie and she's talking negatively about Susie, so then that means she might go to Susie or to whoever else and then talk about me, sally, to them. And so really just like do not gossip, do not say bad things about people, because it also always gets around to them Like truly everyone, and even if it doesn't, it's like yeah, and so every and everyone's like connected and just especially even in college I college I thought like, oh, it's so big, but no, everyone knows everyone somehow.
Speaker 2:but no, no, it's true, I like feel very self-conscious around friends that talk about other friends like I'm very like hesitant to share, because you know someone else opened up and shared something with them and here they are now telling you, telling that yeah, and then I don't tell them anything, because I'm like well they're probably gonna tell someone. So, anyways, that's important and I think you'll be happier if you're not and because, really, like the people I admire most are the people who don't do that. True, so why am I?
Speaker 1:talk about? Wait? No, Talk about ideas, not people. Yeah.
Speaker 2:I was like, wait, that's the wrong quote Almost there, I love it. So I loved all those kind of subsections how to be organized and productive and then how to be motivated and how to just be more social. But then we also got so many responses of like how, of questions that you sent in and advice you were needing, and so we just kind of pulled some ones, uh, that we wanted to touch on. And if we didn't get to your specifically, yeah, please just DM us, and we're trying to be really good at just responding to every new DM.
Speaker 1:At least the best are responding. The very first question said um how do you balance face, schoolwork and friendship.
Speaker 2:I love that question because it's so relatable and I think we'll struggle with that. I'm like trying to find balance for our whole life, Like even if you're not going to school, whether it's work, and you know your social life and everything. We're just always trying to find. You're always balancing. You're always struggling. Yeah, we'll never not be doing that and I love, but we'll give him a shout out Scott O'Neill, who wrote a book and it's called be where your feet are, and I just love that simple tagline.
Speaker 2:I think that comes to my mind all the time because, you can't balance everything, but you can be where you are and so, like, if you're at school, be at school, like be doing that, take advantage of that time to like get ahead on homework or whatever it is doing that. Take advantage of that time to like get ahead on homework or whatever it is and like, yeah, when you're with your friends, like be present with them when you're on your phone.
Speaker 1:That's like the saddest thing. When I like make time to be with my friend and they're just like on their phone, I'm like, okay, I can be on my phone too, but I'm like here with you and like in in all the these places.
Speaker 2:When you're feeling like so behind you can't joke everything. What if you weren't on your phone when you were at school? What if you weren't on your phone when you were with your friends? What if you weren't on your phone when you were at church? You would have been so much more present in all those places and you would feel way less behind and overwhelmed, and you're completely full with faith.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and so that is the worst way to not be where your Someone said how to be fashionable in college and what are some note-taking tips.
Speaker 2:Oh wait, I'm so so sorry.
Speaker 2:I'm going to go back to that first question. Go back. I just like more about the balancing faith is. Truly, I believe that God wants to be included in everything. So, like, don't feel like, oh, I'm not making enough time for my scriptures, because, yeah, I'm busy at school and I'm busy like going to the movies with my friends and whatever, and you're starting to feel like, oh, I'm not giving God enough time.
Speaker 2:The thing is is God cares about those things. He cares about your social life, he cares about your job, he cares about your school, and so he wants you to be doing those. He understands that you can't just sit and really, instead of just trying to like make time, just also just trying to include him in everything. Include him in your social life and include him in your job and in your schooling, cause he really does care. And I just do that by.
Speaker 2:I'm like always just praying aloud when I'm alone. I'm just like talking to God out loud or I'm saying a prayer on my way to school and on my way to different errands and things, because I know that he does care about that. Or praying like, okay, I'm about to go see this friend at lunch, like, what can I share with them. How can I be a better listener or whatever it's like, what can I do for them? Because he cares that you're going to go eat lunch with one of his um daughters that he loves, and so anyways, preach. That's another thing about how to balance faith. He wants to be in all those things, so don't feel too stressed about not giving God enough time. Truth, preach, I love it.
Speaker 1:Okay, sorry. Back to the question. Back to college fashion and no taking tips, yeah, I love it, college fashion.
Speaker 2:We're going to do a fashion a fall fashion episode soon, so stay tuned.
Speaker 1:I love fashion. I stay tuned. I love fashion. I love clothes. I would say, though, most importantly is to be comfortable, like I love fashion, but I will not take discomfort like especially like when you're sitting in class you can't focus if you're like the worst. The worst, like if your shorts are too short or if you're like it's too tight yeah, whatever belt or yeah, and I would also say just like, get some good basics, like you don't have to spend to your point.
Speaker 2:We're not like trying to tell you to spend a million dollars and I'm so over the thing of like, not outfit repeating, no outfit repeat.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, if I look cute in something, I'm just gonna keep wearing it yeah, I would much rather have like five things that I'm obsessed with than like 20 things that I like only kind of Cause that makes like honestly like you cannot say that going to school and a good outfit didn't make your day better. It did.
Speaker 2:It, totally did. The day said I had a cuter outfit, I felt more confident and I was happier and I was listening better. I took better notes.
Speaker 1:Yeah, all of the above.
Speaker 2:I was less like focusing on like oh, how do I look right now? Like, do I look okay? Like when I was wearing a confident outfit, I was confident and I was just where I was. Yeah, not in my head, so love it, okay.
Speaker 1:The next question someone sent in is how to be around people who drink when you don't drink. I have lots of thoughts on this. Yeah, so me and Paige both handled this like in opposite ways, but I think they're both valid, good ways. So, page, how did you handle? Yeah, I feel like, first and foremost, know who you are. Know who you are, I think, what your standards are.
Speaker 2:Yeah, just stay true to them. If you don't want to drink, okay, make that a commitment now.
Speaker 1:If you like, are wishy-washy about it, then your standard is gonna change yeah, yeah, I would say like, understand yourself, like not drinking was something that I genuinely never wanted to do was like planning on doing, thinking about doing like I was genuinely like, not phased by it yeah um, and no one really could convince me otherwise. And all my friends drink um and and I think honestly.
Speaker 2:this is something me and Paige talked about. Our friends knew that that was something we weren't going to do. That was our standard, that we wouldn't drink, and they respected it yeah, and so they would never like. I never felt pressure to.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, I didn't either.
Speaker 2:I think they would have like if we were your friends.
Speaker 1:Don't respect you for that then they're not a good friend. Yeah, and because your friends respect what you want, yeah exactly and try having an honest conversation.
Speaker 2:maybe just explain a little more as to why that is your standard and don't be judgmental Like totally do what you want, but like just for me I need to. You know I want to be safe or whatever is of why you don't want to drink.
Speaker 1:and if they are a good friend they'll understand yeah, and so I mean personally I went to all of those things like I was always the designated driver, um, I always had like a lemonade or a Sprite with me and I feel like I had a great time, like I would love hanging out with my friends. I just I like it didn't bother me. I do think it got to a point, like later on in college, where it was less fun, and so I started to hang out with people that didn't drink as much, just because I got you could have more fun with people who were yeah, yeah, but I just over things so, but I still, at the same time, did have friends that would drink and I was still hanging out with them.
Speaker 1:It just like wasn't every single night, like it was in high school and like my first couple years of college. So I think, just like, if that's really something you don't want to do, but it doesn't bother you to go to parties and you want to be friends with those people and you have good friends, like great but if it is something you really don't want to do but you think like you might give in to peer pressure that's hard Then maybe you want to find different friends, or maybe you're like me, where it's just like it just wasn't interesting.
Speaker 1:I was like that Genuinely weren't phased by it.
Speaker 2:I was like, yeah, I'm not going to do that. I went to parties occasionally. They were never that fun to me it's like this is boring. It's like watching everyone else. It's like and like staying home and like watching a movie with one of my friends, or like my little sister or my parents, like that was more fun to me and so I didn't feel bad about not going to parties yeah.
Speaker 1:So just know yourself and like whatever you want to do, whether you want to go to the parties or be with those friends, or you need new friends, or if you just want to stay home, hang out or a whole mixture of both, like, like Paige said, I had.
Speaker 2:I had friends who didn't drink like me, and so sometimes we'd all just go do something together while everyone else at school seemed to be at a party. We kind of had our own little group and that was great and so fun, and then the other nights was stay home or other nights it's like I'll test it out and I'll go for a little bit.
Speaker 1:And sometimes that was the best, just going to the party for like a second. Yeah, it was always fun, cause you're like oh, I did something, but now I want to go to bed. Yeah, that's true, that's kind of what I started doing. Um, okay, next question we're almost through is how to walk into a classroom with confidence. Ellie got any tips?
Speaker 2:Well, we all know it, I've said it a million times, but I think just placing your confidence outside of yourself and outside of even your outfit I mean, I love a good outfit doesn't make me feel more confident. But just place your confidence outside of all these things and place it into god, because god confidence is so much better than self confidence, because he is so much stronger and greater, more amazing than we will ever be, and so understanding our worth and that we're a child of a God um has made me feel so confident and that he'll help me do whatever I need to do, and that like he has a will for me and he has a plan for me, and so this class taking it like I'm meant to be here right now. So I'm going to be confident and he's going to help me do my very best here, yep.
Speaker 1:And also I would say not really really I agree with that a hundred percent, but also people aren't like looking at you, like you think they are, so it's actually very like sad, like embarrassing how self-centered we are and think yeah like there's a lot of like looking at me. Everyone's noticing how I'm alone, or everyone's gonna do what I'm wearing, or whatever but they're usually not, unfortunately, because everyone's looking at themselves, so they can't look at you.
Speaker 2:Everyone's so self-conscious that we're all just focused on ourselves.
Speaker 1:So don't worry about it, you're totally fine. Yeah, okay, last question what are some tips on how to be more outgoing? My motto is to just fake it till you make it like I feel like. People always say, I'm really outgoing.
Speaker 2:I don't really feel that outgoing, but I think I just must really fake that I'm outgoing like right yeah, I think really social skills, like sometimes it's also a muscle totally and sometimes I'm like oh, I'm like so social, like conversation is so fine, and other times I'm like I'm really struggling to talk to this person and I'm actually reading I'm going to have to do an episode about this a book about communication and people who are really good communicators and likable because you can just click with people. But it's just really fascinating because there is a lot of science behind it and how you can just get on the same wavelength of someone and just connect when you're trying to socialize with people. So let me know if you guys do want an episode on that. But a big part of it is just to be authentic and real in your conversations. Everyone loves authenticity. It's true.
Speaker 2:There was like sometimes when people at school who I was like literally not friends with, like I didn't think, and then they just like start talking to me like I was their friend and I was like literally not friends with, like I didn't think, and then they just like start talking to me like I was their friend and I was like, oh, I guess we're friends, and then I was like so happy to have a friend in this class and I don't know. So I think that was a different me not going to is just act like you're friends. Be authentic, though as well at the same time. I love that. Hopefully, all of you feel a little bit better now about back to school again. Really, I think everyone gets the jitters for back to school, so if you have them, you're not alone. But you've done it before every like, and you can do it again.
Speaker 2:Yeah, exactly like every time I ever felt like, oh, I can't do it, like it's just too much. I was like, oh well I, I did the last grade or the last year of college like I knew it again yeah, and did the last grade or the last year of college Like I knew it again.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and like we talked about at the very beginning, which is maybe I sound like a mom, but it's like. I'm so excited to hear. Well, no, I already said it, it's just like you'll never get to go back to like sophomore year, or junior year or senior year. It's like, and so it's like really important, like it's so exciting, so like I and I like think I enjoyed my time in school, but I wish I like was where my feet were more um and just like was grateful for the opportunity to learn every single day, because now, outside of school, I have to make like an effort to continuously learn yeah, that's such an interesting thing.
Speaker 2:Is that that that, like we spend so much time in school wanting to get out of school, some people even, like you know, get? Myself like oh I just need to hurry and get these degrees but then I can make more money or whatever it is. And then, all of a sudden, you're out of school and you have a job and then you spend your free time learning yeah, like reading self-help books and books about the economy and everything so so yeah, anyways, I hope everyone has an amazing school year.
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